Bondassage & Elysium

Reflections of a Bondassage Experience with Shannon...

I have been reading a lot about BDSM and always wondered what it would mean to surrender total control (within a responsible consensual agreement)! But the fear of the unknown resulted in that thought remaining a dream!

Then I came across this new technique called Bondassage which is a crossover of bondage/sensory deprivation and sensual massage. Administered by a certified professional it promised the best of both worlds. The sensuality of the massage and surrender of control to another as in bondage.

I scouted around for a provider who seemed credible and trustworthy. I came to know that Ms S, whom I had met previously in another setting was offering Bondassage sessions beginning January 2019. I remember reading a description of her elsewhere and cannot find better words to describe her, hence I am paraphrasing from that description: 
 

“S is pure Womanity, inside and out, with a head turning tall hourglass figure and long, naturally red hair. Her intelligence and wit will charm and enchant you, She will drag you in like a force of nature, pushing limits and testing new fantasies” 

Setting up the appointment was easy and over an exchange of emails she quickly addressed my concerns and fears assuring me that Bondassage is not about pain, but about sensuality, being in the moment and feeling every touch. Every action she delivers, she assured me, is delivered within the boundaries we set at the beginning.

Despite that there were butterflies in my stomach in the days and minutes leading up to our agreed upon session. Locating her downtown private condominium was easy and she led me into her abode which was tastefully decorated, lit in candles/incense, and had a massage table and a side table on which a leather collar and cuffs were neatly laid out. 

We had a quick chat discussing boundaries and any physical limitations. She answered all my questions. Such is her disarming demeanor that I lost all my nervousness. She reassured me that she would continue to check in with me right through the session.

When I returned from the shower, she unwrapped my towel- giving me an instant sense of nakedness and vulnerability!. She locked eyes with me and connected with my body and soul using a tantric ritual of energy synchronization. She then put on the collar, the cuffs on wrists and ankles, the blindfold and let me to the massage table. After laying me on my stomach she put on the headphones and started the specially selected sensual music. She also secured my wrist and ankle cuffs to the legs of the massage table immobilizing me! 

After that for the next 75-90 minutes all I could feel were the sensations that she chose to administer. When she took me to that space - of grace, comfort and surrender – I was surprised at how incredible it can be to be held in such a delicious, vulnerable space.

My attention was drawn in to her touch, my body opened, and I had a juicy, sensual encounter. On a personal level, I had a delightful indulgence, a gift to myself that I won’t be forgetting any time soon.

After my session, I feel sexier, more confident, and more alive. The session has given me insights into my own feelings and sensations. I don’t anymore feel the same urge as before to release for the sake of a release!

We all need touch and intimacy in our lives. These experiences make us feel more alive and vital, they brighten our world and make us healthier, in mind, body, and soul. Each of us needs an opportunity to indulge ourselves, to surrender control and drop into our bodies, into the pleasure of the moment.

S offered me a truly wonderful experience, and it is one that I can wholeheartedly recommend to anyone that wishes to explore themselves, their intimacy and capacity for connection.